Bring Christ Into Your Marriage

I’ve found that the times when my husband and I aren’t reading scriptures or praying together as much, is when we don’t get along as well. It’s very easy to get casual with your scripture reading or saying your prayers, but you want to be careful that you don’t get casual with your marriage.

If you find yourself struggling to have peace in your marriage then you must turn to the Lord for assistance.

President Boyd K. Packer said, 

“If you seek for a cure that ignores faith and religious doctrine, you look for a cure where it never will be found.”

No matter how much you love your spouse, if you aren’t keeping the Savior as a part of your life and your relationship then you’ll find your marriage to be a lot more difficult and, quite possibly, more contentious.

In the book, “Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage,” it is stated, 

“Douglas Brinley suggests that understanding doctrine softens our hearts and leads to Christ-like behavior, which culminates in happy marriages.”

You must learn to humble yourself and realize that sometimes you need to work on changing yourself rather than trying to change your spouse.

Elder Robert D. Hales said, 

“Your responsibility now is to be worthy of the person you want to marry. If you want to marry a wholesome, attractive, honest, happy, hardworking, spiritual person, be that kind of person.” 

Essentially what this is saying is that you should be like the person you want to marry.

In the case that you are already married and you want to build your marriage in a more spiritual way then you need to start with yourself. 

How can you expect your spouse to be drawing closer to the Savior when you aren’t willing to draw closer to the Savior yourself?

If you are able to get into the habit of doing those things like reading the scriptures and saying your prayers daily on your own then perhaps that will remind your spouse that they should be doing those same things and soon enough you can successfully develop a habit of doing those things together.